As promised in part of one of this little series, I wanted to answer a few questions that several of you have asked. Before I do that, let me just say “Thank you” to everyone who has come to talk to me after reading the previous note. The conversations have been encouraging, humbling and deeply meaningful.
Visiting
Q: Can I visit?
A: Yes, of course you can! Based on my present understanding of things, the rigor of the program at Edinburgh has no other parallel in my life so far. I will be working harder than I’ve ever worked in my life. But I will always make time for dear friends.
Q: Can I stay with you?
A: I will be living in a dormitory not that dissimilar from Campus East at LU. I’ll have my own room (no room mate) and my own bathroom. I will share a kitchen and living room area with other students. The extent of my knowledge concerning guests is that for the most part, they can only stay two nights, though some are permitted to stay a full week if you obtain permission. The bottom line is, I won’t have a lot of space to put people up. But if you’re coming, perhaps we can try and work something out.
Q: Will you be in a dorm next year (The fall of 2011 and beyond)?
A: I don’t know! I don’t know what the coming years will bring. We’ll have to wait and see what happens, what opportunities open up, and whether or not it’s more fiscally responsible for me to remain in university housing.
Q: If I can come and visit, when is the best time?
A: I will set aside time for you anytime. But as to when the best time is for ticket prices, I don’t know. You’d have to scout that out yourself on Expedia or Orbitz. But I think it would probably be between February and April. But don’t quote me on that. There are festivals in Edinburgh throughout the year, and you can find that information online if you’d like to be in town for a particular festival or other event.
Personal
Q: How often will you be coming home?
A: Well, right now I really have no clue. But I figure I’ll probably be able to get back home about once a year (probably Christmas time) to visit the Louisiana family.
Q: What can I pray for?
Homesickness will be a tough one for me. Whether it’s missing my family or missing my Lynchburg and Liberty family, I know that that will be a struggle for me. Pray that I would be encouraged and quickly put down roots in a church community.
Spiritual and emotional strength will be a constant need. The nature of my research will mean that the topics of doubt, despair and depression are constantly in front of my eyes and on my mind. I will need to keep perspective, take care of myself and honor God with my time.
Strength for the work ahead is also critical. Between keeping my Attention Deficit Disorder under control and controlling the temptation to play tourist everyday, I will need constant focus and determination if I am to finish this degree, and finish well.
Temptation. To be perfectly frank, I’m a 26-year old single guy who will be in a totally new world by myself. Loneliness makes one weak and frail, and prone to make stupid decisions, so I would covet your prayers that I remain disciplined, faithful, focused, and joyfully content with my present lot.
Finally, pray that I find a solid church home and dependable Christian friends that I can trust and learn from.
Q: How can we keep in touch?
A: There are a few methods
Facebook. It’s always been the best way to keep in touch with me, and I don’t see that changing any time soon. I will be on facebook less once I get over there, simply because I’ll be working so much. So while I probably won’t be on facebook chat that much anymore, I will still use facebook to keep in touch with people
E-mail. If you’re the kind that likes exchanging long e-mails, I’d rather stick with actual e-mail than facebook messaging. I’m at dbryanrhodes@gmail.com
Cell phone? I don’t know if I’ll have a cell phone while I’m over there. If I do, the number will be visible to facebook friends.
Skype. I’ll be using Skype a lot to keep in touch with friends and family. My Skype ID is dbryanrhodes
Snail Mail. I’d love to hear from you the old fashioned way! I’ll post up my mailing address on my info page as soon as I figure out what it is.
Blog & Twitter. After I arrive in Scotland, I will be starting a blog to chronicle my time there and keep all of you updated about my adventures, friends, church, research and spiritual journey.Thanks
Here at the end, I want to take a moment to thank all of you who mean so much to me.
To my former roommates: Jason, Brett, Blake, Adam, Chris and Rory. You have impacted my life more than you know. Your patience with my mess was humbling. All of you have taught me so much and have had a significant hand in shaping me into who I am today. You were (and still are) for me, paragons of patient kindness and brotherly love.
To those who served with me on Liberty Student Leadership Teams: You set me on the road to Christian maturity and then helped to keep me on that road whenever I would wander. You believed in me when I did not believe in myself. Finally, you helped me through my decision to resign in 2007 with the utmost compassion and understanding. Thank you.
To all my friends in Lynchburg: It would be impossible to put into words my great love for all of you and what all of you mean to me. I love you, and I am so thankful that you are my friends. Through your love and service, I have learned how to better love and serve others.
To my Professors at Liberty: I am about to embark upon a journey that would never have happened without you. You are the reason I have chosen my present course. You have encouraged but not flattered. You have taught me how to learn as well as how to live. If I am entrusted with university students someday, you have modeled for me excellence in teaching as well as a humble and compassionate spirit that I pray I will be able to emulate.
To my Olive Garden co-workers: You have taught me more about myself than you will ever know. I am one of the few lucky people in the world who had the pleasure of loving the people he worked for and with. You have taught me that your co-workers can make or break a job, and you made it more enjoyable, hilarious, and meaningful than I could have possibly imagined. The inside jokes made the tough shifts bearable, and the camaraderie that formed when things got frustrating was truly endearing. I will miss you so much (and maybe the food…and the discount…but mostly you).
Finally, last but never least, my family. I realized a few years ago that I am happiest when I am with you. You have given me a foundation for my identity as a person, and so much more. I am proud to be a Rhodes (with Domingue blood!) and my love for all of you runs deeper than I can articulate. You are all, to me, a precious gift from God and I am so thankful for you. If I have my way, I will be moving back to Louisiana when my time at Edinburgh is finished. I can’t wait for that day to come, and I think about it all the time.